Please don’t be alarmed, I seem to have done that thing again. The one where I start writing with good intentions, but never hit publish because I started over thinking things. In an attempt to share this post before the year gets away from me, here’s a really quick looks at my ins and outs for 2026 (and how I went with the ones I shared for 2025). We’ll recap 2025 a little later on, otherwise this will never see the light of day.
Ins and outs for 2025
I cooked at home more and had plenty of cosy nights in – largely because time and money were in very short supply for me. I’ve been trying to spend more time connecting with people offline, and less time on my phone, in an attempt to reduce the overwhelm.
As much as I tried to appreciate my body, the diet culture volume got turned way up last year (something that has unfortunately continued). This is a whole important conversation that deserves it’s own post, because good grief, I thought things were getting better but I could not have been more wrong.
All the things I said I didn’t want in my life for 2025? Sadly those were ever present. Most of my year was spent processing my AuDHD diagnosis and trying to find meds that worked for me (again, more on both of those things to come!), as well as juggling full time work and full time study. That’s meant that a few things I probably (definitely) should have prioritised just kind of … slipped off the radar. It made it far too easy to be unkind to myself – hence why you’ll notice a few of my ins and outs for 2026 bearing a remarkable similarity to last year.
Ins and outs for 2026
This year I’m reminding myself about the things that really matter to me – whānau, reclaiming my reo, looking after myself and caring for my community. Why I started my online space, and why it feels important to me to continue it.
Some of these things will require me to work much harder at them than others, and I’ve tried to be very realistic about what is achievable. I want to show up as my full self, and put my energy in the right places, so wish me luck I guess?
Last year I ended my ins and outs with this, and I think it still rings true:
I’ve been finding myself really torn between not wanting to spend much time online (which is partly because I work in marketing so am constantly online for mahi, and partly because the diet culture noise online is incredibly high right now), and recognising that the best way to counteract both the internal and external negative body nonsense is to show up, exactly as I am. To live my life fat, be unapologetic about who I am and stop shrinking myself to make others more comfortable (both physically and my personality).
That pretty much sums it up, right? Surely.
*runs to hit publish*
