I had thought to write something deep and meaningful to go along with this outfit post, maybe something about how I feel wearing clothes that leave me so exposed. Tight clothes that show my VBO, a short skirt that shows my legs, a sleeveless top that leaves my arms bare.
When I sat down at my computer, however, I didn’t want to write about deep and meaningful things like that. Some days, I don’t think about those things. Some days, I just don’t fixate on the size of my thighs or how much cellulite I have. In fact, I’d go so far as to say that most days I don’t have a second thought about my body and how it looks, and I’m trying really hard to make that my normal now.
You see, I’ve spent a lot of time obsessing about my body over the years. A lot of time. I’ve tried to make it thinner, tighter, harder, more tanned, smaller. That shit is exhausting. I have better things to do with my time than to obsess over my body, so I’m choosing to do them. I don’t want to lose sleep over the size of my arms, I want to take every opportunity to wrap them around the people I love. I don’t want to obsess over whether or not I have the perfect flat stomach, I want to fill my life with laughter, the kind that comes from deep down in your belly. I don’t want to punish my body because my thighs are wobbly, I want to walk through the park holding hands with my partner. I don’t want to miss making memories with my family because I’m too busy worrying about how I look in a swimsuit, I want to splash and play in the water with my son. I refuse to miss out on all of those great things in my life because of body insecurities.
Instead, I enjoy every single happy moment. I bare my arms and wear clothes I like. Sure, there are times when I have a bad body day, or I’m critical of how my body looks in a certain piece of clothing, but I don’t let that hold me back from living my life anymore. This is just me, how I am, right now.
Huh. That turned out to be a little more deep and meaningful than I’d intended. I kind of just wanted to tell you about how much I love the colour of this top with my hair, and the pleat detailing at the neckline. We got there in the end though, right? Every day is one more in my journey.
Meagan wears:
Khaki Pleat Neck Vest from Simply Be (26, gifted)
Ponte Pencil Skirt from Simply Be (28, gifted)
Xcesri Belt from Farmers
Opaque 100 Denier Tights from Sonsee Woman (26/28)
Head Over Heels Bronte Ankle Boots from Number One Shoes (9)
Hair by Lauren at Live and Let Dye
Photos: Ambient Light Photography
Meagan I love your clothes choices and I think you look great! I am inclined to say that I also am attracted to you wonderful arms. I like seeing a beautiful women with a powerful presence as well! Just great!
Just read this Meagan what a great post. Isn’t it amazing how you can feel so insecure exposing your body, but when you take the leap and expose your personality, your dreams and what you believe it just makes you feel SO much better?! Your writing is amazing, and that is so much more important to me than what you look like in your clothes (even if you do look amazing lol). Just awesome
Thanks Rachel! I think that’s what we connect to on a deeper level, that vulnerability, so recognising it in ourselves and being able to share that experience is a bit cathartic
I love this post SO MUCH! I was internally air punching and screaming yes at every point! How awesome for your son to grow up with a mummy who is empowered enough to love herself, put her happiness above the body-obsessed bullshit we’re told to buy into and focus on what’s really important.
You keep doing you – ignore those trolls!
Thanks, that means so much! ❤️
Megan you need to start taking care of yourself you will get sick. I’ve been on a mission to loose my weight after my mum has just had 2 amputation in 10 months.
Oh Debbie, I’m really sorry that you feel so poorly about yourself that you feel the need to come and concern troll on my blog. Let me repeat what I’ve said many times here on my blog because you must be new here:
This is awesome, I love it – that shade of green really does work beautifully with your red hair :). Which is also looking wonderfully healthy and shiny – are you still using the straightening brush you demo’d a while ago?
Thanks Sarah! I’d just had my hair cut and coloured, hence the fabulousness. Yep, I went out and bought that straightening brush after I tried it out, but I haven’t used it a whole lot because I haven’t been out much over winter, I’ve been rocking the natural curls instead!
You look amazing in this colour combo Meagan!
Also, I love the fact that you’re using your body for only good things and making the negative a non-entity as much as possible. We need to be able to embrace our bodies and be kinder to ourselves.
Heck yeah we do. I feel like so many people (myself included) have missed out on things rather than enjoying life and it sucks.
And what’s so “perfect” about a flat stomach, anyway? Nothing, as far as I can see! Stay confident, you look great. And always remember: there’s a far wider range of beauty standards in the actual world than there is in the media — meaning, there are plenty of people out here who think you have nothing to criticize or be insecure about in the first place, who truly find beauty in your body as is. Which I know you know but perhaps it bears repeating from time to time!
You are such an inspiration! You look amazeballs….such a little waist!
Thanks Deb! And I think that’s the styling of my outfit and placement of my hands rather than my waist actually being small 😉
you look great
Thanks Tessa!
Beautifully said! Beautifully modelled! Just plain beautiful! <3
Thanks Angela <3