How to be body confident at the beach

This is Meagan Kerr in plus size swimwear by elomi and Autograph // How to be body confident at the beach

My first ever experience with body shaming was when I was wearing a swimsuit, so it probably comes as no surprise that I spent a lot of time agonising over wearing one as a teenager and in my 20’s. I remember going to the beach in board shorts and a baggy t-shirt, with my one piece underneath, feeling very self-concious – a far cry from the cocky, confident person I was on the swim team a couple of years beforehand. Things have changed a lot over the last few years, and now I feel completely at home in a bikini. I get a lot of people saying that they wish they felt so confident in a swimsuit, so I thought I’d share a few of my tips on how to be body confident at the beach (or where ever it is that you’re swimming!).

This is Meagan Kerr in plus size swimwear by elomi and Autograph // How to be body confident at the beach

Wear a swimsuit that fits

I’ve talked about swimwear pretty much every summer since I started my blog, but this summer I’ve finally found one that fits me really well and it makes a HUGE difference to how confident I feel in my swimsuit. As you well know, I’m blessed with a big bust. One key thing I need in a bathing suit is good support, something that keeps the girls in place and looking great. I picked up an elomi swim bra from Avokado, and holy moly, it fits like a dream. It’s got underwire and fits like a bra (I’m wearing a 22H), and gives the same great support that I get from my other elomi bras.

This is Meagan Kerr in plus size swimwear by elomi and Autograph // How to be body confident at the beach

Wear a style that you feel great in

Not everyone feels awesome in a bikini and that’s perfectly okay – you might find that you prefer a one piece or a tankini, or you might like to wear board shorts over the top – just go with what works for you. I love my swim bra for the support it gives me and my high waisted bikini bottoms (which I picked up from Autograph last summer) because they cover up my stomach and help to keep me a bit warmer in the water (I get cold very quickly).

Be prepared

The same as if I’m going out to an event, when I have time to prepare I’m going to feel (and look) my best. Skin exfoliated, fake tan on, any hair removed that needs removing, sunscreen liberally applied (I use this one, which contains vitamin E that moisturises my skin while the other ingredients are protecting it)… I don’t do a lot in terms of my beauty routine to get ready for the beach, but I always feel nicer when I’m a bit prepared. I also make sure I drink lots of water to help hydrate my skin and keep it glowing and clear.

This is Meagan Kerr in plus size swimwear by elomi and Autograph // How to be body confident at the beach

Have a cover up handy

When I’m at the beach, I’m not going to be in the water the whole time – I might be sitting on the sand chatting with friends, having a picnic lunch with my family or reading a book. I like to have some kind of cover up on hand – both so that I don’t feel so exposed and to help protect me from the sun! This summer I’ve worn a shirt dress, but I also like a sarong or a kimono like this one. Don’t forget your hat and sunglasses too!

Remember that you are not alone

I read recently that something like only 20% of women feel confident in their swimsuit, so trust me, you’re not alone! Some of the other people at the beach (even if they’re thin, toned and tanned) will be feeling a bit tentative about stepping out in their swimmers as well and chances are that they aren’t looking at you and judging your body! Anyone that is judging your body? Well quite frankly they can fuck right off.

This is Meagan Kerr in plus size swimwear by elomi and Autograph // How to be body confident at the beach

What’s the worst that could happen?

Before you go to the beach (somewhere between panicked bathing suit shopping and jumping into the water), take a moment to think about why you’re so worried about wearing your swimsuit in public. If you’re worried that someone might say something, think about how you’re going to deal with that and come up with some good comebacks ahead of time (a swift “fuck off” works for me, because I don’t have time for nasty people and refuse to let them ruin my day). Worried that someone might figure out that you’re *gasp* fat? Chances are, people will have a rough idea what size you are, so if they are somehow shocked by your appearance in a swimsuit then clearly they should have been paying more attention. Concerned about cellulite or belly rolls? Those things are pretty normal, and to be honest there are better things you could be doing with your time than worrying about them. You know – like hanging out at the beach!

Stop obsessing over your body

I know this is easier said than done, but honestly, stop thinking about how your butt looks in your bikini and start living your life. When your mind is on other things like the fun you’re having with your kids, how bloody cold the water actually is or whether you can swim to the pontoon faster than your friend, you stop thinking about what you’re wearing or what your body looks like and actually have fun!

Life is too short to stand by and be a spectator. This summer I have danced, laughed, loved, swum and done many things that I enjoy, sometimes even while wearing a bikini. Our time on this earth is short, and I’m not going to waste that time waiting until I’m thinner, more toned, more tanned, or different in any way. My life is for living and I am enough just as I am, and so are you.

Do you have any tips for being confident at the beach?

xo Meagan

  1. Love it, I need to take a page out of your book. If you’re out there enjoying all the things you want to do in life without concern about what other people think of you then you WIN at life!

  2. You are very beautifull and, all above it, you have, like we say in French, “les dents du bonheur”, how i can translate it, “the teeth of happiness” ? I mean the little space between your front teeth… However, you become a model for me, i am very roud of you.
    Best regards
    Cécile

  3. dommage que l’on est pas de clic pour le français mon anglais est vas assez fort pour bien suivre mais je suis tres fière pour elle

  4. I just love your blog posts Meagan! Your lovely positive attitude always shines through, and it inspires me to look past all the bullshit and just concentrate on being happy. You look smokin’ in that bikini, and isn’t Avokado just great for swimsuits?! I have a bikini top from them (I’m gonna be honest, I’ve had it for about 4 years now) and I STILL love it! Fits like a dream! oxoxo

  5. Great tips Meagan!
    I have to say that I wore a swimsuit for the first time this summer and gave literally zero fucks about what people thought. I got a fantastic deal at the Warehouse with a tankini. It was $20 for the top and the bottom. It’s a beautiful colour that I know suits me and it’s got adjustable straps so I’m a happy chappy!

    You look lovely in your swimsuit Meagan, it really suits you. It’s almost retro pin up girl with the high waist and I am so digging that!

  6. Wow you look amazing! What a great bathing suit. I love the tips you have 🙂 And the one that stands out for me is “Chances are, people will have a rough idea what size you are,” Hear hear!! Lets enjoy!!

    • Thanks Yvonne! I figure, people can tell I’m fat when I’m wearing clothes so they should be able to conclude that I will also be fat in a bikini. Shocking? Shouldn’t be, haha

  7. I wouldn’t even bother with saying fuck off. Don’t even acknowledge the idiots who make stupid comments. Pretend you didn’t hear them at all.