I’ve had quite a few people asking me about what kind of bed I’d recommend for plus size people lately, and as you will have seen in this video, Doug and I recently got a new bed so I thought I’d let you know what kind of bed we picked and why we thought it was the best one for us.
It’s kind of hard to make talking about choosing a bed super exciting, because let’s be honest, a lot of the process is me sitting at my computer looking at specs to make sure the bed will meet our needs, and the rest of it is me and Doug lying on a bunch of beds to see which one was the most comfy. I’m going to give it a go though, because there are a few things that I didn’t really know before that might be helpful to other people looking for a bed (the last bed we picked out we didn’t research beforehand and didn’t really test properly before we went in store and picked it out, so this process was really different for us!).
WHAT BED IS BEST?
The first thing I found out while I was looking for a new bed was that a lot of beds are only rated to 80-100kg per person. We both weigh more than that, so before making such a big decision about the bed that we have to sleep on every single night (no pressure, right?), I decided to do a bit of research. Firstly I asked lots of my fat friends about what beds they recommended (and didn’t recommend!), because I wanted to know what people’s actual experiences were with different brands and styles. The answers varied but Sleepyhead beds were the overwhelming winner with my friends of all sizes so I decided to check them out. I started out by visiting the Sleepyhead website and taking their Sleep Selector quiz to see which kind of bed they recommended. It asked questions like who will be using the bed, what position we sleep in, our budget and how heavy we are, then it creates a sleep profile based on your answers. I’ll pop mine below so you can get an idea of what our requirements are when we were looking for a bed. You should totally go check out the Sleep Selector by the way – I just went to grab the link for this post and saw that they’re giving away ten of their duvets, the same one I have, and all you need to do is fill in the questions, so basically you can find out what bed would be recommended for you and enter at the same time! Let me know what bed it recommends for you if you do it, okay?
The Sleep Selector recommended the Sleepyhead Chiropractic range – it’s hypo-allergenic, provides good support and is one of the beds suitable for heavier bodies, basically the key things I want from a bed. It’s actually a style that a couple of friends had recommended so we were off to a good start! Doug and I wanted to test drive a few of the beds in the range so we could pick the one we found most comfortable and make sure we got the right firmness, so we went into Farmers St Lukes (from previous visits I know they’ve got a really good selection of beds in store) ready to
take a nap lay down on some beds. For research purposes, not naps, of course.
CHOOSING A BED
There’s three things I’d recommend if you’re testing out beds.
- Wear comfortable clothes. You’re going to be testing out beds, so my ideal wardrobe aesthetic (feels like I’m wearing pyjamas but actually I’m not) is perfect for this scenario. Also make sure that you wear shoes you can easily slip on and off if you want to, I find it easier to relax and be comfy without my shoes on.
- Make sure that if you share a bed with someone (in my case, Doug) that you test the bed together. That’s the best way to make sure you have enough room, that you can move around comfortably without disturbing them (and vice versa) and that the bed works well with two people in it. We’ve slept in a couple of beds before that are great if it’s just one person but as soon as you add a second the roll-together is so bad! Definitely not what we want with a bed that we’re going to be sleeping in for the next few years.
- You need to make sure you test out the bed for a decent amount of time. A minute isn’t long enough, I like lying there for about five minutes so that I can really relax and make sure the bed is comfortable. I’ve learned that one the hard way: when I was travelling with my family and would give the beds in our hotels a cursory two second test before claiming dibs on one. So often it turned out that the bed I’d picked was really uncomfortable! Luckily that was only for a couple of nights – you definitely don’t want to make the same mistake in a bed that you’re going to be sleeping on at home!
I got in touch with the Sleepyhead team to make sure that the bed would meet our needs (especially in regards to weight – because Doug and I are both heavy, we really wanted to be sure that the bed we chose would support our combined weight) and was stoked to hear that the bed they recommended was the same one that we had picked out when we were testing in store – the Sleepyhead Chiropractic HD Dominica. Full disclosure, after I mentioned that I was on the hunt for a new bed, Sleepyhead said they were keen to come on board and give us a bed and some of their bedding essentials in exchange for me talking about my bedroom makeover and choosing a bed, so here we are. I feel very fortunate that I have companies like Sleepyhead who work with me and allow me to talk about my experience with things as a plus size woman, and they’ve also been lovely enough to arrange for me to give away a couple of things from their Sleep Solutions range as well – you can read more about that in a moment.
Sleepyhead beds are made to order, so once you’ve done all your careful research and testing, you’ll need to wait patiently for your bed to arrive. This was probably the hardest part of the process for us because our old bed was beyond uncomfortable and to be honest I should have replaced it months ago but it was kind of in the too-hard basket while I was having my surgery and recovering from that. Anyway, we waited two weeks from the date we ordered it, and then our brand new bed was delivered. Cue a choir of angels singing.
It’s been a month and a half since our bed was delivered, and I can’t even describe to you how much better it is than the bed we used to have. We chose to get a medium-firm mattress because that’s what we both find most comfortable, and it’s absolutely perfect. It’s firm enough that I feel really well supported whether I’m lying on my back or my side, and soft enough that I climb into bed and feel enveloped in snuggly comfort. I don’t spend hours every night shifting around to find a comfortable position to sleep in, instead I just climb in and feel like I’m enveloped by a warm cosy marshmallow. I’m definitely a Sleepyhead convert and when we do up our teenager’s room, I will be looking at a Sleepyhead bed for his room as well – they have some cool trundler beds that I think will be perfect for if friends and family are staying!
DUVETS, PROTECTORS AND PILLOWS, OH MY!
As I mentioned, the team at Sleepyhead very generously came on board with some of their Sleep Solution range to go with our new bed. The range includes pillows, duvets and waterproof mattress protectors, so as with the beds you can pick out what works best for you. They’ve got a promotion on at the moment for the Sleep Solution range, if you buy two of their bedding accessories you’ll go in the draw to win a winter escape to Fiji, which sounds bloody nice – especially when I’m writing this and it’s cold and pouring with rain!
Anyway, we’ve been using this mattress and pillow protector for about a year now, but have only had one set so we got a second set which makes it much less pressure on laundry day to get things dry! We also got a new duvet, because our one was almost as old as our last bed and not keeping me warm enough over winter. Doug and I have very different temperature requirements when we sleep – he’s always warm and I’m forever cold – so making sure we have a duvet that works for us both is important. We’ve been using the winter weight duvet from Sleepyhead and it’s been perfect while the weather has been so chilly – I used to have to sleep with socks on and full length pyjamas (and even then I’d still get cold sometimes), but I’ve felt comfortable wearing pyjamas that I’d normally wear in summer.
It’s recommended that you get new pillows when you get a new bed because your needs might change depending on things like the firmness and support of your new bed. I’m a bit of a rebel though – my pillow (which is this one) was still in really good condition and I liked it so much, that I kept it and just got another one in the same style so now I have two. Doug got a new pillow though – Sleepyhead sent us this one, which he’s claimed, and I’m a little bit jealous because I was lying on it the other day and it’s so comfy! I’m secretly wondering if he’d notice if I swapped one of my pillows for his?
As always, I’d love to know if you found this post helpful, if you have any tips of your own to add, and if you have any questions that I haven’t already answered. Let me know in the comments below, and if you’d like to win some Sleepyhead pillows for your own bed, make sure you enter the giveaway!
WIN TWO SLEEPYHEAD MEMORY FOAM PILLOWS
One of the things a lot of you have mentioned to me is that you’d really like to get some new pillows for your own beds, so I’m really excited to team up with Sleepyhead to give away two of their Advanced Support Ventilated Classic Memory Foam Pillows. The memory foam contours to your head and neck for greater support, which is awesome because it’s like a custom fit for your body, and they’re great if you sleep on your back or your side (or both, like me). They retail at $179.90 each, so this prize pack is valued at over $350 – pretty epic!
To enter, let me know what position you sleep in (on your back, on your side, on your tummy, if you wriggle around and change position like I do…), then click here to subscribe to my free fortnightly updates. You can unsubscribe at any time if you change your mind – it just makes it easy for us to contact you if you win (plus it means that you get style, self love and other awesomeness directly to your inbox!). If you’re already a subscriber then great – all you need to do is comment below. The winner will be drawn on 18th September 2017.
THIS GIVEAWAY IS NOW CLOSED.
CONGRATULATIONS TO OUR WINNER MELISSA CANN.
Please note that you must have a New Zealand postal address to enter this giveaway. If you’re not in New Zealand, never fear – good things will come your way soon enough.
Let me know if you found my tips for choosing a bed helpful (and if you have any to add)
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This post isn't sponsored but Sleepyhead did kindly supply our bed and some of their bedding essentials to help make our bedroom super cosy, as well as the pillows for the giveaway. As always all opinions are my own.